My Kids Are Growing Up, And So Are the Conversations
Over the past three days I have been involved in some deep conversations with my two older boys. My oldest who is twelve and a half and my other boy who is eleven. Both times just casually talking driving in the car it quickly went from “awesome song” to sex, drugs, religion and after life. I used to worry that I wouldn’t know what to do when my kids got older. I am in the Preschool business, always thought of myself as the expert of the young. But I am finding the older the kids get the more exciting it is getting.
This past week I signed the papers and sold one of my Preschools. The downsizing has begun, the shrinking of my business has happened. I am finding the older my kids get the more they need me. The more present they need me as well. They notice if I am on my phone answering emails or checking emails. They notice if they ask me something and I give them a half hearted “Uh-huh”. This past year I am finding myself waking up in so many different ways. One of those ways is simply as a mother of soon to be teenagers. This is the time I need to be awake, ready to listen and ready to give honest heartfelt advise to my four children.
There have been three deep conversations over the past three days. You know the comment, “Your kids know more than you think.” I have always realized this but it came into play two days ago. Sex came up, condemns, birth control and aids. Drugs, addiction and choosing friends wisely also came up. Religion, after life and the unknown of it all came up.
I feel so honored after these talks to be a mom. To share life with my kids, to guide them and teach them about the wonderful world we live in. I am choosing honesty with my kids, honesty about not knowing what happens when we die. Honesty about sex, love and drugs. After these talks I feel so much closer to them, and excited to see what their future holds for them. They are growing up to be such wonderful kids. Thinkers and questioners all things I never was when I was that age. These talks once again reminded me, this is why I have downsized my life. My kids need me more than they ever have before. I will blink and they will be moving out of our home and moving on to the life they will lead.